The first school months are a difficult time for any child. Changing routines and new requirements appear to the baby, which he is obliged to comply… But the stress of beginning school life is getting to “home” children, never went to kindergarten. Adaptation to the school for a child is complicated by the fact that the baby simply does not know how to behave in the children’s teamhow to find their friends, as not to look “black sheep”…
Is it possible to help the child to adapt to school? Of course! To help parents “home” first graders – this article is on the website sympaty.net!
“And how am I without my mom?!”
“Home” children more often than “Sadowski”, waiting for the first in their life called the miracle school imagine them completely different beautiful world where everything is sure to be great!
But those kids who had to eat the “charm” of the kindergarten – including communication with other children, the need for discipline, the absence of parents, etc., already guess about what awaits them all is the same, only a bit more complicated and serious!
But here comes the “day X” (the first of September, that is!), and… “home” the first grader refuses to stay in class with the teacher and classmates – mother-leaves! A four lesson. Bitter tears and cries, “I want to Maalaea!!!” teachers listen to all day, but hope remains – maybe it is the habit, and tomorrow a child will adapt to school calmly and without hysteria?
But, alas – already the 2nd of September from wanting to go to school is not a trace remains, and the school hours are like for the “home” of the child in the waiting: when to take him home?
And so can continue for a long time – the baby is absolutely not trying to find something interesting for themselves in the school of reality, his thoughts busy waiting for the arrival of my mother! Hence the inattention in the classroom, unwillingness to communicate with classmates, General anxiety and depression…
How to help your child to adapt in school and to get out of this state?
Some parents decided to take “shock therapy” (and the teachers support them in this) for the “endless nagging” the child scolded and even punished, it is natural for such a child longing for mother and home declare shameful, inexcusable for a person in six years, and any attempt to contact the parent by phone immediately stopped by!
But… the situation is exacerbated! The kid decides that his suspicions are correct: the school is a punitive institution, whose goal is to separate him from his parents! Maybe soon a first-grader and stop to cry right in the classroom (because it’s abused), but the General negative attitude of the school to fixate it for a long time…
However, this can be avoided.
Talk with the class teacher – explain to her the situation, ask her not to scold your child because he cried or asked to go out to call home. With an individual approach (which, of course, difficult for the teacher under whose control are 20 to 30 noisy six-year-olds) the teacher should just calm the child, to talk to him calm, even tone, to divert his attention to something interesting (e.g. training material)…
From a teacher’s successful adaptation of the child to school depends on the good 50%!
And what to say to the kid? Explain to him that you are his in any case not over, and school is a place where he can be much more interesting than at home!
Provide the child with a mobile phone (even the simplest), and arrange, for example, that you expect him to call every change. If the baby will suffer and will not be calling one of the changes – it will expect a small reward.
At the same time, do not scold and do not shame the child, if he will call “naukovedenie” time during the lesson – just tell him that you hear him, really love, but now he’d better focus on my studies. When the child will realize that mom does not forget about it and always willing to delve into his concerns, he will calm down, and the frequency of calls will decrease!
Try never to be latecoming for the baby after school – five minutes late can be very stressful for him!
“Why are they not friends with me?!”
Adaptation of the child to school and adaptation in the children’s team. For home child’s peer group, of course, also important and needed, as well as to graduate kindergarten. But if the “Sadowski” child already knows how to find his way into the nursery,the company that “home” is the baby still needs to master this art!
Not all home children uncommunicative – many of sociability and openness inherent nature! Such a child without constraint meets the other children on the Playground, and it will be easy to adapt to school!
But if your kid is shy – rehearse with them some of the common scenarios in advance: how to ask the neighbor’s party, his name, how to approach a group of guys and talk to them, what games you can offer to play on the break etc.
But it happens that the child’s group bypasses the “home” of the child, if he is shy and General conduct as any different from most children. Sometimes this difference can be even better – the child is the best mannered, not prone to “pushing people around with his elbows”, or maybe just doesn’t know any of the fashionable cartoon…
In this situation parents should not impress upon the child the thought “they are all Fools and you’re the best!”.
- First, the awareness of their own difference or even superiority of the child’s adaptation to school routine is absolutely not conducive.
- Secondly, there is the risk to raise a “Mama’s boy”, who will not seek the company of peers – it would be enough for mom, who always praised and not alienate!
- Thirdly, children are not stupid! No matter how stupid an adult perspective did not seem their Hobbies and games that they make sense for your child is much more useful to participate in this silly game with the others, because it will make the lesson of partnership, actions in the team, “sense of community”!
And if he thinks the book is useless downhill well… the book, of course, is good buton the baby will become a “white crow”…
If a child is really significantly different from classmates, then teach him to defend his point of view, at the same time not rejecting what is offered him children’s society. It’s not always “not such” children become the “black sheep” — sometimes they make their way to the leaders!
And sometimes parents incorrectly assess how the child adapted to the school team. For example, not all children can be “the soul of the company”, constantly being surrounded by crowds of children – it is okay if the baby gets only 1-2 PAL. Subsequently, such a friendship may be stronger and more valuable than the leader in the class!
Another typical problem adaptation of the “home” of the child to the school – the lack of habit to compliance with a collective discipline.
After the home of permissiveness kid may not immediately understand why it is important to have time to go to the toilet at recess and why are there reluctantly let go during a lesson of why you need to read or write, when you don’t want to you to engage in numerous and not always interesting.
In the diaries “home” the first-graders sometimes there are comments about the behavior and parents wonder he’s so quiet, what’s got into him?! And nothing happened. Just a kid got up and walked out of the classroom in the midst of a test. Or draw in a notebook the sun instead of the smooth rows of “sticks”. So wanted!
To avoid such moments, play with a child “in school” before joining the ranks of first graders – tell him what the call means, why you need to listen to the teacher, etc.
Let it be a game, let the child himself will visit “teacher” and put a pair of naughty bear, “drew” the sunshine in a notebook! Then to adapt in this school the child will be easy!
In General, the adaptation of the child to the school may take more than one week. Sometimes, the child calmed down and got used to school life, can go a quarter, sometimes a semester…
If you think that something is wrongand your baby is too closed and closed to communication with their peers – will visit the school psychologist (or psychologist outside of school).
Author – Dasha Blinova, site ToKnow365.top
Adaptation of the child to the school: “home children” and school life