How to convince someone in a dispute?

Sometimes we all participate in the debate and discussion of controversial issues. But that argument is not passed into a fight, ugly fight, and in this companion acknowledged his wrong – you should visit the website “” how to convince a person.

How to convince people?

How to convince the correctness of the interlocutor? It can be done “wrong” — if it works! But it works not every belief not all…

Why? Can be directly labeled fools and idiots, but if you have failed to convince of anything, what is obvious to you – but it will be biased and one-sided.

Example. Imagine that you’re in an African tribe, and I want to convince the natives that it is impossible to eat live caterpillars, as they have taken.

You can tell them that enzymes in the human stomach poorly adapted to the digestion of caterpillars that along with this “food” the body can get germs and bacteria that cause diseases that the insects contain little nutrients to the person, and in General terms “civilized man” it is disgusting and tasteless.

Would they understand you? No!

Africans of the tribe never saw the germs with their own eyes – why should they believe a word that they exist, and even cause disease? They don’t know what is enzymes in the digestive tract and how they operate, and they just care what good or bad contained in unroasted housenice meat. I do not say anything about subjectivity of the argument “tasteless”.

But if a little to enter the worldview of the average native, you can apply the iron logic: “Tonight in my dream I saw the spirit of the desert, Khorovogo-Bongo, and he strictly forbade me to eat the caterpillars!”. All. The debate is over, everybody knows now.

Of course, you can spend many years on education of the whole tribe, so they began to understand the realism arguments about bacteria, enzymes, etc., but during this time many caterpillars have to eat…

In General, good if you are with someone “birds of a feather” is approximately equal cultural and social level, similar worldview, etc. Then there are chances that the work “direct” logic.

But if not? How can you convince a person if you have different “inputs”? Look for the argument that he is as close and clear (even if it’s at all illogical or secondary)!

Mother in law wants you to cook food for the whole day in the morning? “With what joy I have to get up at dawn for those damn pots?!”, and “I would love to prepare it in the morning, but I’m so afraid to disturb the morning sleep of Your son…”.

Think about what “basic postulates” in the worldview of the interviewee, as they are linked to the topic of discussion? In the case of the mother – in-law assume she’s a feisty village woman, but she loves her son and wants what’s best for him. So appeal to this “fad”! (By the way, you can read more about how to get along with mother-in-law).

How to convince the correctness?

The proposed common rules of cultural discussions (not only etiquette, but also those that will really help to understand how to convince people):

  • Do not raise your voice, do not let the voice shrill. The tone of the question almost no one can adequately listen well to perceive what the truth while none were expressed. So don’t set yourself against the interlocutor’s voice and tone.
  • Look for confirmation of their arguments in people who are authoritative for the interlocutor (quotes from the writings of Lenin to the statements of the neighbor women Nura – if the person they’re more authoritative than you).
  • Uwazaj their arguments with the system of human values. Repelled by the fact that it is an indisputable fact, draw analogies and Parallels to well-known situations and events, etc.
  • Safely call time-outs for reflection, the collection of additional data, etc. It in any event plus any time for this controversial issue will be forgotten and gone from the agenda, or you really come into a new “session” discussions, being “material”.

So to prove his innocence so much easier! Don’t try to argue with everyone, even the “bad” disputes – not always the truth is born, sometimes they are just aggression and broken relationships!

Author – Dasha Blinova, site

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