Kindergarten or home: what’s best for your child?

Home or kindergarten? For many parents, unfortunately, the choice in favor of garden is determined by the need somewhere to keep the baby, leaving for work. But if it is possible to proceed in this question only out of use for a toddler, it is best to thoroughly understand and weigh all the “pros” and “cons” and to consider the psychological characteristics of the child! And women’s website “” tell me towhat pros and cons can be found in the home and the kindergarten education.

Development and education

Remember the story. Kindergartens appeared in the 20-ies, when women were obliged to go to work, and suddenly there was a problem children who have nowhere and no one to leave.

Before the revolution (and in Europe – to the pre-war time) practice to give the educational institution a small child with living parents able to provide for her baby, not there! That it gave?

Was not a uniform, universal system of education of a preschooler.

The mother felt the need to give the child at this stage, and it is unlikely she was tormented by questions that hung on maternal conscience of modern pedagogics: “He’s 3, and he can’t pronounce “R” as in run to a speech therapist or wait?!”, “Five years, and he doesn’t know a single letter – what technique to use?!”, “He did not like to hear read out loud – mental retardation?!”, “Doesn’t want to play with their peers — suddenly a vampire!!”, etc.

It was hardly bad – every child developed at their own pace, and I must say, hardly as a result of this there were more cases of psychological and mental venture.

Again, sadikovski education, whatever it right, you still smell of the barracks. The teacher conducting day after day with other people’s children, each with its own characteristics and problems, will give the child that gives a mother – parenting with love.

I think the kid does not understand what the teacher is nursed with him, not because he loves but because that’s her job? Understands and feels the difference!

Preparing for school, learning

Many would agree with the above, unless you talking about another aspect, that most modern moms, having read clever books, I begin to worry when the child is 2-3 years old!

It is preparation for school. They say General culture I told him, of course, ladies, but to prepare for school using special methods is the work of professionals! So you should find the garden with good recommendations, and after the child with a guarantee will become a student in the first grade!

But… it’s not necessary. Why?

Psychologists are sounding the alarm that modern children are forced to learn too early and too seriously. A first grader has every right to sit at the Desk without the slightest knowledge of reading, writing and account – Yes! It is not necessary to try to go with the child 4-5 years of first grade, he was able a year later to slack and need classmates, barely making out the syllables!

Enough common, everyday knowledge about the world around, the development of logical thinking, creative view of the world – and this can be achieved not fancy techniques, but through active communication with the child, joint games, walks, crafts… And he will show interest in letters and numbers – it is also quite possible to learn at home, believe me!

On the contrary, in the kindergarten, the baby will face offensive egalitarianism – all teach, but some caught on the fly, and the other difficult and interesting… and individual approach in a group of a dozen kids wait does not have – so that, in the opinion of “Beautiful and Successful” one-zero in favor of the home preparation for school!

Fellowship, children’s team

To instill in your child good manners, give him knowledge about the world, interesting and to spend time with him and at home. But there is one aspect that makes to lead their child in kindergarten even the most radical in favor of home education moms. This children’s team and the opportunity to learn communication skills in dealing with peers. “In theory” books a child’s first learned, and grown a society of relatives – quite another matter!

When to say “Yes” to kindergarten, focusing on this factor? If the child itself is sociable, happily playing with the children on the Playground, do not test complexes from interaction with their peers, so in the garden he is sure to be good!

And here at home these children are often bored, and require constant attention home, sulking, can’t find employment… Communication for them is a natural need of the soul, which is necessary to satisfy!

The same applies to hyperactive children. It is clear that teachers do not say a big sincere thank you for the emergence of this “perpetual motion machine” in the group, but a hyperactive child team is useful in that the children themselves can adjust his behavior somewhere not to support the initiative running around, somewhere, offended by the prank, etc. Is more effective than the shouts and notations adults!

But what if your kid is shy, demure? Many moms believe – nothing! On the contrary, will be forced to learn to communicate, be sociable!

But child psychologists are advised to think about. Maybe for a quiet, relaxing child’s garden will become just a “dungeon” — all around yelling, making noise, to stay away is almost impossible. Sit quietly with a toy in the corner or the kids will come running, take away, to scream, or educator will be to pester the question “why are you sitting there, play with all of you?!”… And close and understandable to people – parents – not around!

Therefore, for children kindergarten introverts usually becomes a terrible “place serving” (as well as school, summer camp, the army – all the places where you need to be a long time in the eyes of the team, without breaking the rules set out therein).

Just the introvert need for communication not so high – so that kid learned to establish contacts with their peers, it is quite enough one-two hours a day on the Playground. To expect that in the garden he would be as sociable as his extroverted peers, not worth it – this “shock therapy” would lead to even greater isolation.

In addition, the garden has another feature (I don’t know, positive or negative…), it is designed to make the child “normal”. Sleep when everyone is sleeping to eat that give rise to an alarm clock, to play together with the team. And if that is something you don’t like to do without whining and complaints. Think it’s a good program of schooling a child for adult life, a model of adult society? No garden can not do!

But maybe give it at least 6 years of carefree childhood?..

Author – Dasha Blinova, site

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